Friday, March 31, 2017

“We don’t have to sort all our garbage before we throw it out”

Before a purification ritual I attended a few years ago with the pagan community, one of the priestesses pointed out, “We don’t have to sort through our garbage before we throw it out.”

Those of us who have been through lots of Freudian talk-therapy find this exceptionally difficult to do at first. Don’t we have to bring all the old traumas to the surface, dialogue with our inner child, confront and seek closure with our abusers, and “solve” everything first? Aren’t we negating some part of ourselves, or ignoring our deeper problems, if we say we can “throw out” our past traumas and disempowering belief systems?

I used to think so; then I realized a few years ago in my work with holistic health specialist Cindy Dillon that there’s a lot more to our healing process than talking about and trying to “solve” our problems.

While it’s important to understand our problems and stressors so we can learn any important messages or use the growth-opportunities they present to us, we really don’t need to repeatedly dissect every single trauma or abuse or self-doubt for years and years before we can release it. Many of us have already done more of this than we ever needed to in therapy, and now the next step for us is to learn how to release the energies from these old hurts that still haunt our lives.

In my previous post, I introduced some energy-work concepts which conventional therapists are not trained in. I was first introduced to the idea of grooves by Cindy Dillon, whose approach as I understand it is emptying from the grooves our old negative beliefs and energies, and re-filling them with positive energy and new beliefs we are trying to integrate into our lives.

A few weeks ago I heard a different approach to this concept from a life-coach named Dal Bouey [pronounced boy-AY], so I’ll present that now so you can decide for yourself which of these two ideas resonates more with you, or if some combination of them is apropos to your life.

Dal echoed the idea from the pagan priestess I mentioned above, using plumbing problems as an analogy. When a building develops plumbing problems, the plumbers come in and realize that the surface issues in the sinks actually stem from a much deeper problem in the pipes underground. The plumbers realize that not only were the pipes not installed correctly in the first place, they are made of substandard materials that leak and deteriorate much sooner than pipes in a commercial building should.

The business-owner is then horrified to find out how long the repair or replacement process will take, and how much it will cost, while the plumbers spend weeks or months excavating and studying the system to figure out how to fix it, and risk damaging the foundation of the building or the integrity of the earth around and under it in the process.

Did it ever occur to these plumbers to just lay new pipe? Dal asked. What if the plumbers decided instead to close off the valves to the underground pipes that can’t be fixed in a reasonable amount of time and for a reasonable cost, and lay better pipes just above them, using correct installation practices to assure that these pipes don’t develop the same problems as the old pipes?

Not only would this process give the business-owner a whole new plumbing system for less than the cost of fixing the old system, it disturbs the building and the earth around and under it far less than extensive excavation and rework of the old system would.

For people who have only just started their self-healing work, these ideas may need to be worked up to. For those of us who find ourselves with nothing new to say about our old issues, then it is likely time to start digging out the old grooves and re-filling them with new material. Or, if we feel that the old grooves are just too damaged or too deep to keep what we don’t want from falling back into them, we can figure out how to close them off and dig new ones to a more manageable depth.

Image: “Enchanted Tree Congress” by Karla Joy Huber, 2011; Prismacolor marker, Sharpie marker

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